Soh Wei Yu

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Self-compassion 

Self-love

… Are the world most confused ideas 

And will not bring happiness. 

Every time I see “love your self” on a dhamma website or group I cringe so much 😬😜

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If "love your self" as the mere absence of "hate your self", then it's ok. (Like Nirvana is this highest bliss, which is the mere absence of suffering but not a transient state of happiness or feelings) But not loving a real "self" because it cannot be found. Loving a "separate self" is falling in love with an illusion.

"Love your (conventional) self" as loving everything sensed, felt, cognized, thought, etc, also ok. Not a separate/inherently existent self.

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"Many love Presence, the background, the reality behind all appearances. If we can dedicate the same love towards appearances and to thoughts, I think that will do; for they are one and the same. Forget about self or no-self if it is confusing. My 2 cents." - John Tan, 2007

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Actualizing no-self is like falling in love with everything moment to moment that you call "yourself" and "others" without reifying and dualizing "yourself" or "others"...

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